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The6-Week Love Life Playbook

Psychology and science at the core. An optional spiritual layer for those who want it. Work through each week at your own pace — this is here for you permanently.

Each week has a theme rooted in psychology and neuroscience — a main task to complete, seven daily journal prompts with space to write your notes, and a community challenge to keep you connected and accountable.

Everything lives here permanently. No deadlines, no pressure. Come back to it whenever you need it. If you want to add an astrology layer, Week 0 is where that begins — entirely optional.

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Set Your Foundation
Intention & optional birth chart
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Know Who You Are
Identity & self-concept
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02
Understand Your Patterns
Attachment theory
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03
Get Clear on What You Want
Desire & vision
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04
Spot the Red Flags
Discernment & trust
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05
Set Boundaries Like You Mean Them
Polyvagal theory & self-respect
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06
Show Up as the One
Integration & becoming
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Week 0
Set Your Foundation
Before you begin — know your blueprint.
Your intention

Complete this prompt before Week 1 begins:

"By the end of this Playbook, I want to feel..."

Examples: Clear. Confident. Empowered. Peaceful. Selective. Ready. Hopeful. Connected.

Choose the word that resonates most right now. This becomes your North Star. Come back to it every week.

Optional — astrology layer

If you want to go deeper, your birth chart reveals patterns in how you give and receive love, what you're wired to attract, and where you may be unconsciously blocking connection. You need your date, time, and place of birth. Free chart at astro.com — or grab a discounted personalised Love Life reading inside the Lounge.

Key placements: Venus (how you love), Mars (how you pursue), Moon (emotional needs), 7th House (what you seek in partnership). Want compatibility insight? A synastry chart shows where the chemistry and friction lives between you and a partner.

Journal prompts — write your notes below
01What one word describes how I want to feel at the end of this journey?
02What has brought me here? What am I ready to change?
03If I'm honest, what pattern keeps showing up in my love life?
Community challenge

Post your one word intention in the community. This is your commitment. Say it out loud.

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Week 1
Know Who You Are
You can't attract what you want if you don't know who you are.
Main task

Write your personal values list. Not what you think you should value — what you actually value. Then write three non-negotiables you bring to any relationship. These are not what you want from a partner. These are who you are. Post them somewhere you'll see them every day this week.

Daily journal prompts — write your notes below
Day 1What three words would the people who love me most use to describe me?
Day 2Where in my love life have I shrunk myself to keep someone comfortable?
Day 3What do I actually need in a relationship — not want, need?
Day 4When was the last time I felt truly like myself in a relationship? What was different?
Day 5What story am I telling myself about why love hasn't worked out yet?
Day 6If I fully owned my worth, what would I stop tolerating immediately?
Day 7What would change about the way I show up if I believed I was enough?
Community challenge

Post your three non-negotiables in the community. No explaining, no apologising. Just own them. Read everyone else's and drop an emoji of support.

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Week 2
Understand Your Patterns
The pattern you keep repeating is trying to tell you something.
Main task

Identify your dominant attachment style (free quiz at attachmentproject.com). Write one paragraph on how this style has shown up in your last two relationships — not to blame yourself, but to see yourself clearly. Then write one thing you want to do differently going forward.

Daily journal prompts — write your notes below
Day 1What is my attachment style and how has it shaped my relationships?
Day 2What is one pattern I keep repeating that I am finally done with?
Day 3When I feel anxious in a relationship, what do I typically do?
Day 4When I feel secure in a relationship, what does that feel like?
Day 5What does the healthiest version of me look like in a relationship?
Day 6What did I learn about love growing up — and is that still serving me?
Day 7What would it feel like to finally break this pattern for good?
Community challenge

Share your attachment style and one honest insight it gave you about yourself. No judgement here — just radical honesty. We're all doing the work.

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Week 3
Get Clear on What You Want
Vague intentions attract vague relationships.
Main task

Write your Love Life Vision. Not a list of qualities for a partner — a description of what your actual relationship feels like. How do they make you feel? What does a Sunday morning together look like? Write it in the present tense as though it already exists. Be specific. Be honest. Be bold.

Daily journal prompts — write your notes below
Day 1What does my ideal relationship actually feel like day-to-day?
Day 2Where have I settled for less than I actually wanted?
Day 3What have I been telling myself I don't deserve that I actually do?
Day 4What is the difference between a want and a need for me?
Day 5If I knew I couldn't fail, what kind of love would I go after?
Day 6What does healthy love look like to me — not perfect, but healthy?
Day 7Am I currently available for the relationship I say I want?
Community challenge

Share one sentence from your Love Life Vision — the one that excites you most. Let it land. Let others witness you claiming it.

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Week 4
Spot the Red Flags — and Act on Them
You already knew. This week you learn to trust that.
Main task

Make two lists. List 1: every red flag you've ever ignored, and what you told yourself at the time. List 2: for each flag, write what the version of you who trusts herself would have done differently. This isn't about regret — it's about building the muscle of acting on what you already know.

Daily journal prompts — write your notes below
Day 1What is a red flag I kept seeing but kept explaining away?
Day 2What did I tell myself that allowed me to stay?
Day 3What does my gut feeling actually sound like when I pay attention to it?
Day 4When someone shows me who they are, what stops me from believing them?
Day 5What has the cost of ignoring red flags been in my life?
Day 6What would I tell a friend who described this situation to me?
Day 7What boundary do I need to set that I have been avoiding?
Community challenge

Post one thing you now see as a red flag that you used to make excuses for. You don't have to name names. Just claim the clarity. Someone else in this community needs to read what you write.

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Week 5
Set Boundaries Like You Mean Them
A boundary without a consequence is just a preference.
Main task

Write three boundaries you need to set or reinforce right now. For each one: (1) the boundary in one clear sentence, (2) why this boundary matters to you, (3) what the consequence is if it is crossed. Then practice saying each one out loud — just to yourself, in the mirror. Hear yourself mean it.

Daily journal prompts — write your notes below
Day 1What is a boundary I have wanted to set but kept backing down from?
Day 2What do I fear will happen if I hold a boundary firmly?
Day 3Where in my life am I saying yes when I mean no?
Day 4What does it feel like in my body when a boundary is being crossed?
Day 5What would I need to believe about myself to hold this boundary?
Day 6Who in my life respects my boundaries and how does that feel?
Day 7What do I need to let go of to make space for a relationship that honours me?
Community challenge

Share one boundary you are committing to hold this week. It can be small. Small is still real. Post it and let the community hold you to it.

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Week 6
Show Up as the One
You don't need to be perfect. You need to be present, intentional, and ready.
Main task

Write two letters. First: to the version of you who started this challenge six weeks ago — what you've learned, what you've released, what you are now choosing. Second: to the relationship you are calling in. Not to a specific person, but to the partnership itself. Tell it you are ready.

Daily journal prompts — write your notes below
Day 1What is the most important thing I have learned about myself in these six weeks?
Day 2What pattern have I officially decided to leave behind?
Day 3How do I want to show up differently in my next relationship?
Day 4What do I now know I deserve that I wasn't sure of before?
Day 5What does the most empowered version of me look like in love?
Day 6What am I still working on — and how will I keep going?
Day 7What do I want to say to the community who did this journey with me?
Community challenge

Share your closing reflection. One sentence, one paragraph, one word — whatever feels right. This community showed up for you. Show up for them too. Celebrate how far you've come.

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Your 6-Week Journal

All your notes in one place. Download as PDF or plain text at any time. Your entries are saved automatically in your browser.

00Set Your Foundation
01Know Who You Are
Daily prompts
Day 1
Day 2
Day 3
Day 4
Day 5
Day 6
Day 7
02Understand Your Patterns
Daily prompts
Day 1
Day 2
Day 3
Day 4
Day 5
Day 6
Day 7
03Get Clear on What You Want
Daily prompts
Day 1
Day 2
Day 3
Day 4
Day 5
Day 6
Day 7
04Spot the Red Flags
Daily prompts
Day 1
Day 2
Day 3
Day 4
Day 5
Day 6
Day 7
05Set Boundaries Like You Mean Them
Daily prompts
Day 1
Day 2
Day 3
Day 4
Day 5
Day 6
Day 7
06Show Up as the One
Daily prompts
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Day 2
Day 3
Day 4
Day 5
Day 6
Day 7